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     Everything that God creates has a structure. God gave us structure to protect us. There is enormous structure in the spirit world. Kings, kingdoms, rulers, and authorities, rule the spirit world. (Ephesians 6:12, Colossians 1:16). There is a chain of command. God is the Supreme ruler of all and Satan is the ruler of darkness. Satan has no power over Christians. God purchased our freedom with the blood of Christ. We WERE rescued from the ruler of darkness at the Cross. (Colossians 1:13-14, 2:15). It has already happened. We need not live in Satan's bondage any longer.

      So why does Satan continue to destroy lives and marriages of Christians? Why are we afraid when we are the victors? "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children" (Hosea 4:6).

      Satan only has the power over us that WE give him. We give him power when we are not sober and diligent in living according to God's structure. Living apart from that structure is rebellion. We give him power when we live as victims instead of as victors. We give him enormous power when we live in rebellion to God, and in unforgiveness.
      This is VERY IMPORTANT!
      Right now YOU have a choice to obey God and take the next step in having a closer relationship with Him, or you can live as the world does and never have true joy. You can live in bondage as a victim, or in freedom as a victor. Satan tries to destroy Christian marriages because of the devastating affects it has on Christians, and the beneficial affect it has on his kingdom of darkness. However, if you are obedient to God's structure, God can turn your marital strife into a testimony to help others. This trial you are going through can be the one event that jumpstarts your spiritual life and takes you to a higher level in Christ. If you only learn one thing from this website, please learn this:
      God wants you to have the mind of Christ.
      There is no better way to learn what the mind of Christ is than to go through marital strife! IF you are willing to lay down your pride and seek the Lord with all your heart, He will show you what His WAY is. It really is simple. He wants you to WALK IN LOVE AND FORGIVENESS! This is the way to a deeper relationship with Christ! If you can truly comprehend this, you will have a deeper relationship with Christ. If you do not forgive, God will NOT forgive you (Matthew 6:15, Matthew 18:35, Mark 11:26).
     THE MIND OF CHRIST - The entire duty of man is to love. "He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." (1 John 4:8).
     We are to love God and we are to love our spouses. Jesus said that if we love, everything else is automatically covered (Matt 22, Mark 12, Luke 10). When we don't do that, we are out of God's structure. We are not under His covering. We are in rebellion. People don't realize that the spirit world is REAL. When we are in rebellion, Satan gets to wreak havoc on us. But if we have the mind of Christ, Satan has no power over us.

      Jesus is perfect. We are not. Having the mind of Christ seems so complicated. After all, spouses hurt each other. How can we forgive our spouse when they have hurt us? Certainly there must be an exception somewhere so we don't have to forgive them, right?. I'm sure we can all evaluate our spouses and then present our findings to the Lord and beg him to let us out of our marriages. Do you see where I'm going with this? I just learned something a little while ago that I couldn't grasp before. Having the mind of Christ is NOT about focusing on what is wrong and then trying to get out of things. Having the mind of Christ is about focusing on GOD, seeking, serving, and obeying HIM. If you have the mind of Christ, you can love your spouse regardless of what they do. Instead on focusing on their faults, your focus is on how you can get closer to the Lord. By doing this, your marriage is going to improve by default.

      Over and over people kept telling me that I needed to focus on God, and not on my wife. I tried but I miss my wife so much. It hurts me to see her in bondage to her past. She is the love of my life whether she hates me or not. I've prayed and prayed and shed many tears. I've begged God and I've bargained with Him, to set her free. But over and over He said that He wanted to work on ME. I got so sick and tired of people telling me to work on myself when I have been doing just that the entire time since the abandonment. I told myself, "If I hear that one more time, I'm going to scream!" I didn't abandon anyone! I hated hearing that over and over because God was growing me almost faster than I was able to keep up as it was. However, I kept missing one thing. The mind of Christ. Please listen to me about getting help for yourself even though you may be ready to scream. THERE IS A REASON FOR THIS. It has to do with God's structure.

      Christ is the head of the church.
      Husbands are subject to Christ.
      Wives are subject to their husbands.

      This is God's structure. As Christians, Christ has authority over us. Husbands have authority over their wives. With authority comes responsibility. It is important to use this authority wisely. But what does this all mean? Husbands are to submit to Christ. That means that as husbands, we MUST be obedient to Christ and that we are accountable to Christ for all that we do. We are the head of the family. It is our responsibility to submit to Christ's guidance and not rebel against what He tells us to do. But the Bible says that husbands and wives are to be subject to one another. And this is the one point that many husbands don't get. Somehow this point gets lost. Husband's, it is not your way or the highway. You and your wife are ONE and if you are not considerate of her, you are in rebellion to Christ! You are responsible for weighing each decision carefully and making the decision that best suits the family unit. You must always make the best decision regardless of whose idea it is. It is my suggestion that if a decision is equal between your idea and your spouses, that you choose your spouses idea. I'm not suggesting that you do everything your wife's way regardless of the benefit. That is the spirit of Ahab and it is also dangerous to a marriage. If your idea is more beneficial, then be man enough to choose your own idea and explain why.

      Wives, do not rebel against your husband. If you do, you are in rebellion against Christ. This is the spirit of Jezebel. This spirit is extremely destructive. Not only is it destructive to the marriage, but it is destructive to the wife specifically. The Jezebel spirit loves to inhabit the female reproductive organs. A person with the spirit of Jezebel often is sterile. The spirit of Jezebel causes extreme lower abdominal pain. When this spirit is cast out, the pain disappears. This is not a medical problem but a spiritual problem. This spirit cannot be cast out until the rebellion against the husband stops and is repented for. The legal authority must stripped away from the demonic spirit. This spirit can enter in childhood when a victim of abuse rebels against their abuser. You can learn more about the spirit of Jezebel by reading Spiritual Warfare by Richard Ing.

      Wives, God set up the hedge of protection under your husband for your protection. This is God's structure. When you rebel against your husband, you are allowing Satan the authority to work in you. Yes, the demon of rebellion will be given authority to enter you. You do not answer to God for your family. Your husband does. He will be judged for his decision. If it is the wrong one, he takes the blame, not you. If you disagree with him, let him know why and respectfully request that he reconsider. God demands that you support and not rebel against your husband. Accept his final decision and let him know that you love him and stand by him. There is nothing more loving that a wife can do than to stand by her husband no matter if she agrees with him or not.

      What if my spouse is in rebellion against God?

      Husbands, suppose your wife has abandoned you and is living in rebellion against God's structure. Are you no longer in authority? What do you do? You must work on yourself and have the mind of Christ. What does that have to do with your wife, you ask? Your wife is in extreme spiritual danger. She is no longer under your spiritual hedge of protection. She is extremely vulnerable to demonic control. She has opened herself up to demonic attack because she has rebelled against God and His structure. There is a literal spiritual world. This is not a figurative hypothetical realm. You have the authority to come against every force of darkness and pray her home, in the name of Jesus. However, if your own life is not in order, the devil will exploit that. By submitting yourself to God and seeking Him with all of your heart, you can get all of the junk out of your own life and exert your God-given authority over the spirits attacking your wife. That is why it is important to clean yourself up. You cant come against a demonic spirit in your wife if you have given authority to that same spirit in yourself! Does it all make sense now?

      Wives, your situation is different. What if your husband abandons you or is doing something else that is in rebellion to God's structure? What do you do? You must work on yourself and have the mind of Christ. You too need to get the junk out of your life. You need to stop looking at your husband's failures and pray for his success. Your duty as a wife is to build up your husband whether he is serving Christ or not. If you are a Christian, you must submit to your husband whether he is a Christian or not. You need to win him over with your Christlike behavior. If your husband has left or is doing something immoral, you must fight for him spiritually as well. Submit your marriage to your church and let your pastor be your spiritual authority if your husband is being immoral. Under no circumstances are you to take action against your marriage. That is rebellion against God. You do NOT have the authority to do that. Any separation must be for the ultimate purpose of reconciliation and should then only be done under your pastor's authority. If you do not follow God's structure, you will be opening yourself up to demonic attack. Then you have absolutely no protection since your husband has already given authority to the devil.

      This is real folks. This isn't a game. When you rebel, you are destroying your relationship with Christ. When you choose to follow God's structure, your focus changes from your spouse to God. God will honor that and your spouse will change. But more importantly, you will have changed. When you seek to be closer to the Lord, the result will be a closer relationship with your spouse. Seek God and the rest follows. Stop worrying about the things your spouse does that you don't like. Seek the mind of Christ!

      So what is the mind of Christ? What "revelation" do I need in order to have true joy? What do I have to do to have a happy marriage and life?

      What is the key to living in true joy? What will truly change your life and your marriage forever?

      Don't live as the world lives, live as CHRIST lived!

      What makes a true Christian different from other people? They don't live like the world. There is a noticeable difference between a true Christian and the world. Christians are to have the mind of Christ. Let the Holy Spirit control your life. Check out the book of Ephesians:

      Live no longer as the ungodly do, for they are hopeless confused. Ephesians 4:17 (NLT). That means no bitterness, no unforgiveness, no divorce, no pride, no independence! It means LOVE, FORGIVENESS, and INTERDEPENDENCE!

      "Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love. Always keep yourselves united in the Holy Spirit, and bind yourselves together with peace." Ephesians 4:2-3. (NLT) - The Holy Spirit unites and is the author of peace. Love promotes unity, humility and peace, and is of the Holy Spirit. A demonic spirit promotes division, strife, and abandonment.

      "Until we come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God's Son that we will we be mature and full grown in the Lord, measuring up to the full stature of Christ." Ephesians 4:13 (NLT) - The knowledge of God leads to unity. Coming together in Christ promotes spiritual maturity.

      "Don't sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil." Ephesians 4:26-27 (NLT) Anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness gives the devil a literal hold in your life.

      "Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32 (NLT) - More "mind of Christ".

      "…the terrible anger of God comes upon all those who disobey Him" Ephesians 5:6 (NLT) WHAT??? All? Won't God forgive me if I just want to be rid of my spouse and divorce them? God forgives all who repent of their sins. But how can you repent for something you are glad you are doing and have been planning for months? God is gracious and He will lead you toward Him. But that will come through much pain if you purposefully choose to defy him in rebellion.

And Galatians:

      "But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control" Galatians 5:22-23. (NLT) - If you are not showing your spouse these qualities, you are not controlled by the Holy Spirit but a demonic spirit.

      "Don't be misled. Remember that you can't ignore God and get away with it. You will always reap what you sow!" Galatians 6:7 (NLT) - You will be punished for defying God's order in your marriage. But if you truly repent, you will reap blessings!

And Corinthians:

      "And EVERYTHING you do must be done with love" 1 Corinthians 16:14 (NLT) - The mind of Christ.

      "Let love be your highest goal." 1 Corinthians 14:1 (NLT)


"If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth but didn't love others, I would only be making meaningless noise." 1 Corinthians 13:1 (NLT) - Spiritual gifts, going to church, praising God, etc., all mean nothing if you don't love. You can't love God and hate your spouse. That is living a lie. It is just a charade. Make loving God and your spouse your highest goal above ALL else.

      "Love...endures through EVERY circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13:7 Christian love endures because it is based on Christ, not your spouse's performance. Love is an action. People are imperfect and you may not always feel love, but if you have true Christian unconditional Agape love, you will always be able to put love into action. If you can't, you need to examine yourself and see which spirit you are letting control your life. Who truly is Lord?

      I could go on and on. It is difficult to explain the correlation between God's structure and the mind of Christ in words. But when the Lord reveals it to you, you will experience the freedom of loving your spouse without having to critique their behavior.

      SLAM the divorce door shut! Divorce is the mind of Satan. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy. The Holy Spirit comes to restore peace in your marriage. You must obey God to have true joy. Bind your will to HIS will. Ask God for HIS thoughts to be your thoughts. Make God’s purpose your purpose. Think and act as JESUS would have you act! Do not act out of your own human carnal nature of bitterness and unforgiveness! This is rebellion and is as the sin of witchcraft. (1Samuel 15:23)

      Please try to grasp this. If you print this out and give this to your spouse, you have missed the whole point. Seek Christ first and the Lord will provide people that will be able to help your spouse and your marriage. If you seek the Lord, He wont be shy in giving you prophecies and Words of Knowledge. Satan is trying to destroy your marriage. But God is using Satan's own situation to provide you the opportunity to really get to know Christ like you have never known Him before.